Is Emotional Maturity Costing You More Than You Realise?
Why Being the Emotionally Strong One Can Leave You Feeling Unseen and Alone
Namaste,
There’s a quiet kind of strength in you that listens when others need to be heard, holds space when emotions run high, and chooses compassion over reaction.
You’ve done the inner work.
You’ve grown.
And maybe, without realising it… You’ve become the one everyone leans on.
This week, let’s explore a question that doesn’t get asked enough;
Is emotional maturity costing you more than you realise?
You’re the one they turn to.
The calm in the storm.
The listener, the forgiver, the one who “gets it.”
You see beneath people’s pain, read between their words, and extend compassion even when it’s not returned.
But behind all that grace, who’s holding you?
Somewhere along the way, being emotionally aware got tangled up with the silent agreement that you don’t get to break down.
That your needs come last.
That “understanding” others means tolerating everything, even what hurts you.
This isn’t emotional maturity.
It’s emotional overfunctioning.
And it’s easy to confuse self-respect with self-neglect when your worth is tied to how much you can hold for others.
What’s at Stake?
When you’re always the bigger person, you start shrinking.
Resentment simmers beneath the surface.
Loneliness grows quietly.
You begin to wonder: Is it love, or is it just emotional labour disguised as connection?
Even the most grounded hearts need a place to rest.
Emotional maturity isn’t about being invincible.
It’s about knowing when to soften, when to be held, and when silence is no longer self-care but self-abandonment.
There is a path to honouring your depth without carrying everyone else’s weight.
You don’t have to hold it all alone.
You’ve shown up with so much heart.
You’ve held space with grace, even when no one noticed.
But self-love isn’t about being endlessly available.
It’s about including yourself in the care you offer so freely.
You don’t have to stop being the one who understands.
But maybe it’s time to be someone who understands yourself, too.
With softness.
With honesty.
With the same compassion you give away so easily.
That’s not letting anyone down.
That’s finally showing up for you.
So, while showing up for others, you are not letting yourself fall behind.
Just a gentle reminder :)
If this spoke to something in you, and you want to talk about it in depth to overcome it with a personalised framework and strategies, you may book a session with me here. 👇
Regards,
Dr Pooja Patel
Founder & Coach - Tatva Within
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